It was difficult, with many steps back, many times of turning back to the cycle of violence before you finally broke free.But now, you are getting stronger daily, learning to love yourself again and working through all the hurt, fear and anger you have experienced in the past.
Cultivating a 'c'est la vie' attitude toward life can help you to move through this painful situation.
Accept that just as you have no control over whether it's sunny or rainy tomorrow, your ex's choices are equally as uncontrollable.
You've been trying to control the situation by dropping hints and manipulating, hoping that people will react the way you want them to and that you'll get your way without ever having to come out and ask for it.
But you're not a puppet master and they aren't puppets.
If a friend lets you know that she saw your former love and his Angelina Jolie look-a-like girlfriend at a concert Saturday night, let her know that that you wish them well and then change the subject.